I like to write holiday themed
columns. Mother's Day gave me the opportunity to share the story of a maternally-minded ewe who
adopted a family of triplets after her own lambs were born dead. Five weeks
later, I also had the Father's Day gig, but had nothing fatherly to write
about. So I told a tale I'd been wanting to tell for a long time about a little
dog named "Spirit," and a veterinary technician with an abundance of
it.
A few days later, though, a Father's
Day story began to emerge. During a rare moment of down time, I found myself in
our treatment room with a collection of vet techs, assistants, and shadows. I
don't even remember why, but I asked them to name their favorite movie. Other
than Laura's answer of "The Lost Boys," I can't recall any of their
responses. When one asked what my favorite was, I replied, "Field of
Dreams." But when another asked, "Why
Dr. John?" I suddenly felt an
overwhelming urge to make a speedy exit, as tears were about to overflow.
What happened? I simply thought of a
line from the movie. However, that line gets to me every time... every darn
time. In the film, Iowa farmer, Ray Kinsella, played by Kevin Costner, hears a
voice emanating from his cornfield: "If you build it, he will come."
For much of the rest of the movie, Ray tries to figure out who "he"
is.
I'm not going to write the line.
Apparently, merely thinking of it makes me an emotional wreck. Let me just say,
I would give anything, and by "anything" I mean everything, for the opportunity
to deliver Ray's line to my own "he," just one more time.
My dad died when I was a senior in
veterinary school, five months before graduation. He was one of my professors,
and he taught at Ohio State for thirty-five years. He never really wanted to be
a veterinarian, though. He wanted to be a farmer like his uncle, Osborne.
Although he was raised in Cleveland,
he spent many a youthful summer on Uncle Osborne and Aunt Minnie's farm. Osborne's sister,
Aunt Blodwen, lived down the road on the farm where my wife and I now live. My
dad enjoyed the country life, and he would regale me with anecdotes about
threshing crews and Osborne's team of Percheron geldings, Tops and Major. He
loved their farms and he loved this area.
My dad talked often of his plans and
dreams, and what he wanted to do after he retired. Raising draft horses and
sheep on his family's land was included among them. Coincidentally, or
genetically, his youngest son shared those same dreams. Sadly, my dad ran out
of time before he ran out of dreams. That lesson did not go unlearned.
After our movie discussion, I must
admit to spending most of the afternoon in a bit of a funk. Beyond the obvious sadness, my father's death
has been the greatest disappointment in my life. Dying took away any chance for
him to see what Bonnie and I would accomplish with our farm and practice. He
was able to witness my brother's life, and my sister's life, but not mine.
Judging from my visceral reaction to a line in a movie, that wound must still
run pretty deep.
I did everything I could to build
"it," and yet "he" didn't come. Of course, I didn't really
expect him to. That would be silly. But wouldn't it have been something if he
had?
That evening, as I drove past the
corner of Aunt Blodwen's farm, with the wind gently blowing the wispy regrowth on the hayfield, and the
sun beginning its slow descent behind Aunt Minnie's woods, I realized I
couldn't have been more wrong. My dad did come, and he's been here the whole
time.
First, he came with me to Delphos to
join the practice of his old friend, Dr. Ed Laman. Then when Bonnie and I moved
the practice to the historic Lincoln Highway, he was right there with us. And
twenty- six years ago, after two generations of dreams, he was finally able to
move to his beloved farm.
Not a day goes by that I don't think
of him, and not a day goes by that he doesn't influence me in some way. Happy
Father's Day, Dad. "Do you wanna have a catch?"
By Dr. John H. Jones
Dr. John H. Jones practices at Delphos Animal Hospital with his wife and partner, Dr. Bonnie Jones. Their family includes two Border Collies, a Pembroke Welsh Corgi, three spoiled house cats, several beloved barn cats, a flock of Southdown sheep and a variety of chickens, ducks and geese.